I’m trying to make sense of memorials posted on automobile’s windows and the sides of the roads. Why do people do this?
Seriously I know it’s difficult and painful to lose someone close to you but why would the rest of us want to read about it while driving down the street? It’s like “look at me, feel bad for me, I lost someone I love”. I got news for you, everyone has lost someone they loved dearly, everyone. It’s never easy but I don’t feel the need to advertise it on my car. I do feel for these families, I’m not heartless, I just don’t understand the logic. You won’t forget this person if you don’t have it on your vehicle or the side of the road. You should be remembering them in your own way and not forcing your grief on the rest of us.
The newest trend is to put photos of the victims on the memorials. One memorial I am citing is that of one which I see almost every day and is right down the street from my home. It’s a small hand made wooden cross painted white with a man’s photo covered in plastic and glued to the middle of the cross. His name, birth and death dates inscribed on the cross and some tacky plastic flowers stuck in the ground around it. When I die, please don’t put any plastic flowers anywhere for me. I hate plastic flowers with a passion.
When someone gets killed by a car that is not where their soul is for eternity. If you must go somewhere to pray, go to church if you want to pray and remember them, the house of God. Don’t go to where the horrific fatal accident occurred and dredge up bad memories of that fatal day. It seems to me to be torturous to one’s self to do that. How do you think the deceased would feel if they knew you were doing this? I’m certain if they loved you as you did them, they wouldn’t want you to go to the place of their death and feel the pain of said death every time you went there. Go now, go to church or a beautiful spot and think lovely harmonious thoughts of your loved one. Be grateful you had them in your life, don’t dwell on how or where they passed.
